Rules of the Game Pt. 1

With summer fast approaching, we are reaching the end of cuffing season. Cuffing season for those who are unaware or have no black friends, is the time of the year when the weather starts to drop and people search around for girlfriends/boyfriends to keep them company during the year, usually from October to March. It's sorta like a love hibernation of some sorts. Usually during the cold winter months people don't like to go out to bars, clubs or lounges and having someone steady breaks the monotony of being alone. So today, we will take a look at the do's and don'ts for girls and tomorrow we'll do the same for guys that are looking to snag a potential love interest!

Do's For Ladies:

1. Wear heels

-Guys for some reason love when women wear heels. They're stylish and sexy when compared to the other alternatives of wearing flats, sneakers and worst of all Chinese slippers. If your going for that smoked out hooker look then by all means, Chinese slippers are for you. Heels say, "I'm a lady with purpose!" and flats say, "Jesus doesn't love me and neither does my family." A statement you don't want to make when looking for someone that will potentially develop feelings for you. The size of a heel alone is enough to get any guy's attention because they'll be wondering how anyone could walk with those things.

2. Bring a crowd

-Typically when guys and girls hangout, the guy will ask if the girl has any friends. This is very important because guys usually hang out with 2-3 other guys at any given time. Most guys don't want to choose between being with friends or some potential girlfriend. If a guy can combine these two together for the beginning of courtship then it'll make the transition a lot better for the girl stealing the guy away from his friends, which does happen. Also, if the guy turns out to be a creeper and tries to pull some weirdo move like lick your knee, you have people to protect you and witnesses for the police.

3. Phones are Bi

-That's right, phones work both ways. Guys believe it or not do get tired of being the one responsible for setting up play dates ladies. It's hard for some men to distinguish from being interested to feeling like their begging for your attention, something most men will never do, so make it easier and use your cell. And it'll make the guy seem cool that a woman besides his mother is calling him!

4. Tell a joke

-Most situations between a guy and girl are as follows:

(Girl comes in and sits on couch)
Guy: Hey, do you want something to drink?
Girl: No thanks.
Guy: You wanna watch TV or something.
Girl: No, I only watch tivo, I don't like commercials.

And of course, the guy doesn't have tivo, so the two just sit in silence. After about twenty minutes the girl makes up a lie and leaves. Ladies must realize that guys don't always want to be the entertaining one and sometimes aren't in the mood to do so. Ladies should try to break the ice or strike up a conversation from time to time. If your not funny at least try, just learn when to stop to avoid becoming annoying like the vast majority of females in the world.

5. Easy doesn't do it

-The most important thing to do is to play hard to get. Most guys like the challenge of the chase that easy women don't offer. Also, being easy makes a guy think of you as  more of a one-night stand than anything serious. A guy figures if he was able to get a chick so fast then so was most guys she talked to in the past. The one thing that guys never want to do is be with a woman that many men have had sexual encounters with. That's just nasty, Katt Stacks we're looking at you!

PS: Cooking shouldn't have to be mentioned, come on now!!

Do not's for Ladies:

1. Keep it Simple

-Yes, guys do give attention to women that are dressed in something a little too tight or a little too short, however not for any good reason. That type of girl gets sexually energized attention, nothing more. Females think men are shallow and it really isn't all that true. A girl in sweats and a tee shirt can be far more appealing and attractive than a girl that leaves little to the imagination. Remember, it's not about how fast you can get a guy to notice you but how long you can sustain his attention.

2. Man Up

-One thing all men hate about women is the fact that they complain so much about every small thing. If it rains, that's a problem. If it's too hot, that's a problem. If you're wearing Nike's and not Reebok's that's a problem. Unless you have a solution to a problem then don't speak on it, because nine times out of ten the guy doesn't even notice it and now feels annoyed about your nagging.

3. Be Independent

-Guys are usually confused when it comes to knowing what a women wants and unless it's explicitly said, they won't ever know. One minute Destiny Child comes out with a song about being Independent and the next it's asking some guy to pay bills, bills, and more bills. Which one is it? Never assume a guy is going to treat you if you're just seeing him for the first time. Times are changing and some women actually get offended by it, albeit not many, just don't make assumptions. Rule: If the guy asks you out than he should treat, if you ask a guy out don't expect him to pay! And if the guy asks you to meet him somewhere, try your best and find a way there, gas prices are higher than Lindsay Lohan, don't conitually make him come out of pocket for everything.

4. Space Jam

-I, personally, don't understand this but some girls are always under a guy. Maybe she has no friends, maybe she's sprung, who knows but it can be a huge turnoff for a guy. Some girls seem as though they can't function without having some guy in their life. Most guys are independent by nature and don't like having to check in and out when he comes and goes. Only a man's mother has the right to question his whereabouts, not his lady friend. Give him his space.

5. The Cling

-The biggest reason some guys choose to leave women alone is fear of the cling. It sounds like some type of STD and it feels that way also. The cling is to be expected after sexual relations, especially due to a female's high emotional association between feelings and intercourse. However, guys don't feel the same way and usually those feelings aren't reciprocated. Although it goes against your nature ladies try and hold off on being around a guy too much after the first time. And if it's good you know that simple fool will be back time and time again.